If there was ever a bullshit mantra going around, this would be it.
I know that many people would say that this is what gives them the confidence to do things in their life they may not have the confidence to do. So, they pretend to be someone else or to set aside those feelings of inadequacy so they come across to others as successful and as people who “have it together.”
To some it gives them that little “push” to get up and try something they haven’t done before and all power to them.
But for me, I think, “why fake it?”
Nah, I’m not a “fake it until you make it kinda gal.”
I’d much rather openly admit when I’m not feeling comfortable; if I haven’t done it (whatever it is) before; or if I don’t have the answer. In the same breath however, I’ll also admit to you that I’m open and willing to give it a go and see what comes out of it.
This is me asking for your permission so I can be the real me in front of you.
Who knows, it may work or it may bomb miserably but together, we’ll see it through and most of all, we haven’t “cheated each other” by the pretence of faking anything. You don’t come away thinking you’re inadequate in any way because I come across more confident, successful or rich; and I don’t come away thinking, “well, I managed to pull the wool over their eyes!”
If people are willing to give people a go who are open, transparent, vulnerable and in so doing, puts them in a position where they’re not cheating each other, I think the world will just be that little bit better.
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